I’m quite excited about this blog tour, being a parent and facing a whole new world that did not exist when I was a child can be a bit scary so I am pleased to be able to share some Do’s and Don’ts for parenting in the modern world.
The top 10 Do’s and Don’ts for Modern Parents
Taken from The Parent’s Guide to the Modern World
By Richard Daniel Curtis, The Kid Calmer
The modern world is full of new threats that many parents never had to encounter when they were growing up. It’s overwhelming at times and causes all sorts of parenting headaches, especially when your children can out-talk you on technology. I talk to hundreds of parents each year and understand the dichotomy of trying to keep them on the straight and narrow, whilst also not ruining your relationship. So here’s the top 10 do’s and don’ts from the book when it comes to raising a teen or soon to be teen.
- Be the friendly, non-judgemental ear for your child. They will encounter sex, drugs, alcohol, pornography, and bullying whether you like it or not – it’s far better for them to have you to turn to when they do.
- Share your teenage experiences with your teen, without giving them all of the gory details; help them to understand that you were teenage too.
- Only give your child a smartphone when they are mature enough to be able to talk to you about bullying issues.
- When it comes to using the internet leave them with an understanding that even if they are on a dodgy site they can come to you for support or advice without being judged.
- Get your child to check links on suspicious emails by checking the from address matches the company and also hovering over the links and looking at the link address (often in the bottom left of the browser) to make sure they match.
- Be open to talking about how easy it can be to crack default passwords and why you should change them.
- As your teen starts to use social media, teach them to always stop and think before posting comments, photos or videos.
- Teach your child to report inappropriate posts or comments and to be able to ignore them.
- Invest in tech insurance and protectors!
- Finally make sure your child knows that you will never be angry with them and that you are there for them to turn to when they experience problems.
- Compare the pressure your child is under to what you experienced; today’s world is very different.
- Deny your child the emotions they are feeling as they experience social problems, your child is unlikely to have learnt that they will fade and they will feel very real to them.
- Be judgemental, it’ll only make them move further away from
- It’s impossible to block out the impact of terrorism on the modern world, it’s far better to educate your child so they don’t pay an unhealthy interest or become anxious.
- Let your child take their phone in their room overnight.
- Rely on your internet blocking set up. Education is far more important than dependency on software, as the moment they no longer have the software they will struggle to cope.
- Avoid the conversations; your child will come across malware, trolling or pornography at some point online, it’s better to have given them the tools to choose to avoid it.
- Be heavy handed with taking away tech as your child does their homework; if they’re used to flicking between things they’ll need a gentle approach to getting used to more focus.
- Minimise the emotional and physical sensation of the experience of games, the technology is so advanced it can provoke the same reactions as though they went through it, your child may need your support to cope with the after-effects.
- Assume your child will know when to use technology; they’ll want to consume it. Teach them to make decisions about whether it is the best thing to use.
The Parent’s Guide to the Modern World
Raising a child in the 21st Century is scary! There are so many threats to your adolescent that you worry about what they are up to in their bedroom, let alone when they are out with their friends.
The world is so different than when we grew up, young people nowadays have different expectations about life and use so much technology. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed at times. Even things that were simple have got more complicated, issues like gender identity or sex. It’s hard to know where to start with technology, every time you feel you have a grip on what your child is into, they talk about something else you’ve never heard of.
Life as a parent is overwhelming!
The Parent’s Guide to the Modern World gives you the answers to the worries you haven’t even realised you have. Starting with a section on how your child’s brain develops and explaining why their personality changes so much during puberty. It even helps you to structure any difficult conversations you need to have with your teen or soon to be teen.
The book then goes through over thirty different aspects of the modern world, telling you about the risks associated with each, plus the dos and don’ts for you as parents. Following this, part three focusses on the predictions for the world your child will be an adult in; helping you to understand the things you can do now to give them the best chances in life. Finally, the book contains a handy glossary of terms your young person might be using.
Worried about how to help your child understand these risks? Why not buy them the sister book The Young Person’s Guide to the Modern World.
Purchase on Amazon UK here.
About Richard Daniel Curtis
Based in Southampton with his partner and their young son, Richard Daniel Curtis is an internationally renowned behaviour expert and futurist passionate about helping people understand mindset and psychology. A former teacher, and mental health support worker, Richard is known for his impact with turning round some of the most extreme behaviours and is consulted about adults and children around the globe, even having two assessments named after him. He has founded The Root of It -an organisation of qualified professionals available to support schools and individuals with behavioural difficulties- for which he was awarded the Gold Scoot Headline Award in 2015 and Best New Business in 2014. Most recently he launched The Mentoring School to train the psychology related to mentoring people of all ages. For his work and expertise he has been interviewed for the BBC,ITV and Sky News TV and various international print media and radio. His previous titles include: 101 Tips for Parents, 101 More Tips for Parents and 101 Behaviour Tips for Parents (2014) and Gratitude at Home (2016).
Website: The Kid Calmer